Doing Kindness: The Ultimate Show Of Love
Personal relationships are established on a daily basis based on the accumulation of experiences lived with the sentimental partner, family and friends. The joys, the good times or the common achievements contribute to laying the foundations for this interaction. However, the sufferings, the disappointments and even the routine can fragilely build the same. That’s why, in a relationship, doing kindness can have a very positive impact.
After years of relationship, these small gestures keep the flame burning and, in moments of monotony and sadness, they are very necessary. Why? Because they are the ultimate expression of love in a couple. For example, an impromptu romantic date, preparing a relaxing bath, or even a hug at an unexpected moment, can all contribute to rekindling the flame of passion.
Is routine a problem in the relationship?
Living the couple’s day to day and maintaining a certain routine is not a negative thing. In fact, on the contrary: this can help build solid pillars in the relationship, and maintain a certain organization and stability. Therefore, it is here, in the frenetic pace of daily life, that the kindnesses of love take on greater importance.
If your sentimental partner is caring continually and all the time, there comes a time when it is no longer valued enough, and it becomes a habit. On the other hand, these kindnesses, these special pinches of sugar, sweeten the routine and show your love, concern and affection for the other person.
It’s not necessary to wait for a special occasion to do niceties; why wait if, throughout the day, countless opportunities arise? Furthermore, on an anniversary or special date, these demonstrations are expected and therefore do not offer this advantage of surprise and meaning. On the contrary, doing unexpected kindnesses any day of the week helps the relationship move forward, adding freshness and filling it with little joys.
The importance of focusing on the other
The most important thing, when doing kindness to your sentimental partner, is that you think of the other person, that you put your eyes, eyes, and all your attention on the other. Consider that the gesture is for your sentimental partner, not you. So it has to be special and make him smile.
All of this has a double effect. On the one hand, you forget about yourself and your worries to focus on your sentimental partner, because you will think of comments or actions that will surprise you and brighten your day. On the other hand, if your purpose fulfills the expectations, you will be able to satisfy your partner, which will have enormous and healthy repercussions in your relationship.
It is necessary to emphasize that the kindnesses must be reciprocal. We all like people to show us affection, and to see that others care about us and our relationship. It is intrinsic to human beings to want people to “pamper” us. But, neither can this serve for us to be mere passive subjects, nor for us to take advantage of these demonstrations.
This needs to happen in both directions. You need to be active and adhere to the basic principle of reciprocity throughout the relationship. On some occasions, it is important to set aside your own preferences and tastes, and think for a moment only about your sentimental partner, your tastes, and what can make you happy. It is very generosity to be able to put yourself in the background to be able to focus your gaze on the other. That’s when we reach the maximum demonstration of love.
Doing kindness is neither expensive nor selfish
Really, you don’t need to invest a lot of money or a lot of time to do niceties. Creativity is enough to add a sweet touch to the relationship. It is essential to put yourself in the other’s shoes to find the right kindness. You’ve certainly heard the phrase “the little details are what make the difference” on several occasions. So let’s expose some examples of these gestures.
Kindness to the sentimental partner
If your sentimental partner is usually the one in charge of putting the kids to bed, you can start doing this during the week, thank him for the care he shows his offspring with a light massage, or take the opportunity to clean up the house. You can also surprise him by picking you up at work, sending you a photo that makes you laugh or cooking your favorite dish with pampering and effort and, of course, you can’t forget to clean the kitchen!
At an intellectual and professional level, it is convenient for you to listen, understand and advise you on the small conflicts that may arise in your day to day. And, all of that, by getting involved in his decisions. One of the most important kindnesses that often goes unnoticed is that you give him a hug right after you see him. A hug that is warm, sincere and full of love so that he can find the rest he needs in your arms.
As you can see, the most important thing is that you think about your sentimental companion, his tastes, and put yourself in his place, managing to dedicate a little kindness to him. The two of you will benefit, and the one who will win, without a doubt, will be your relationship, because you will take steps towards a better and more promising future.
