How Do Manipulative People Relate?

Without realizing it, we can be immersed in relationships with manipulative people, who change our way of thinking or acting, for their own sake.

There are different “categories” within the handlers, depending on the person’s control over us. If that pressure is too severe, experts call it a “Perverse Narcissist,” and that’s what we’re going to talk about in this article.

You’ve probably seen a lot of movies, read a few books, or heard stories about people manipulating their partners, children, friends, etc. This personality type exists in all families and we are not always aware of the situation. What’s more, we may even fall prey to manipulative people right now and not know it.

Perverse narcissists, as some psychologists call this profile, are the ones who are constantly telling the other what to do. Subtly (or not), but with an effectiveness that really scares you, as it restricts your freedom.

These people, in turn, may have other types of negative behavior, such as emotional excesses of all kinds, aggressive and threatening behavior, continuous lack of respect and contempt.

When it comes to being a perverse individual, he is like that 24 hours a day, without distinction. The relationship with its victim was determined in this way and there is nothing that can change it unless the person who is being manipulated starts to want to change the relationship.

Especially in love relationships with a manipulative person, it can take a long time for the victim to realize what is happening. She doesn’t want to hear what her loved ones say, she thinks everyone is wrong, that the other person does it because they love her, that she can make her own decisions, that she isn’t afraid of her partner, etc.

At some point, it is still unclear why the person suffering in the grip of the manipulator wakes up from this “deep sleep”.

Imagine, for a moment, what the spider does with its prey: wraps it in its web, until it finally feeds on it. Something similar happens with the handlers and the positive energy of their “prey”.

In addition to saying that a manipulator’s victim has needs or problems, we should also point out that the narcissistic narcissist also needs help.

the handler

While we all complement each other in relationships, the person who has the most to lose is the manipulator, not the manipulated. This is so, since he is “consuming” something the victim has, such as his intellectual capacity, kindness, charisma, solidarity, self-esteem, friendships, work, health, etc.

We always talk about the characteristics of manipulative people and how we realize that someone is controlling us, but we never try to judge why that person reacts this way, what they need and how they ask for help. With this, we are not saying that he is not responsible or blamed for his actions, however, we would have to analyze what traumas or problems from the past led him to act in this way, or what are his deepest needs.

When a narcissistic pervert meets someone easy to control, that’s where he can put into practice or deposit all his traumas. Not wanting to offend anyone, a handler acts when the victim allows. This does not always happen on purpose on the part of the manipulated and, even, there are cases in which the victim does not notice either.

The pervert envy what the other has, so he uses his tools to get hold of it. The victim cannot see the maneuvers used against him, he is blind with passion, he does not perceive the other’s actions as something negative.

But it can influence your mind and your emotions. The same happens with a drop that falls on a rock; over time, it wears down the stone.

When a manipulator meets a self-assured person who knows what he likes, has his own opinions about certain things, and even something bad happened to him with a wicked narcissist before, he has weapons at his disposal to not allow the cobwebs envelop you.

But beware,  no one is 100% immune to this type of personality, as some know how to do a perfectly “fine” and almost imperceptible job, until the other becomes a puppet.

Be very careful about the people you interact with. It’s not about feeling threatened or persecuted all the time, it’s about walking on safe paths.

Also, don’t hesitate to do some introspective work to objectively determine if you can come up with a personality that can be easily manipulated.