Don’t Love Yourself. What Causes This?
How many times have you heard that you should love yourself more? If you love yourself , you can love others, or at least that’s what they say. What do you think?
So if it feels so good to love yourself… why do we choose otherwise? Who would choose not to love themselves? Today we will give you the answers to all your questions.
I choose not to love myself
Maybe you’ve never experienced this, but often, when faced with a negative moment or situation that marks us, we tend to act contrary to how we should act. Why do we do this? Why do we take advantage of what hurts and hurts us?
Simply because it is a “masochistic” way of facing what has caused us harm, to, for a moment, have the control that we didn’t have over it.
If you choose not to love yourself, maybe it’s because it ends up being simpler to let others think for you. The others are important, you are not. Do you know what causes this?
1. Apologies
You have a thousand and one excuses for believing that you shouldn’t love yourself : you don’t deserve it, it’s not important, you’re always the problem, and so on. These and many other excuses keep you from loving yourself and keep others from loving you. This makes you sink more and more into deep unhappiness.
2. You avoid risks
At first, we may think that avoiding risks is something positive, but quite the opposite! Avoiding the risk of having romantic relationships or friendships so as not to have to go through rejection, through pain, is not worth it! It’s part of us to take risks, because… what if it works out? What if you are happy?
3. Do not move forward
Stagnating, avoiding moving forward for fear that everything will change. That’s the fear of many people. Get out of your comfort zone! You feel safe, but don’t move forward! We are destined to find something more, a progress. If there is no progress in our life, it will be meaningless and… is it possible to live happily like this?
4. Be a martyr
In addition to not loving yourself, you love being felt sorry for. In other words… feel sorry. Do you really do well in this facet of martyrdom?
Behind all the pain you struggle to feel, there is an important frustration and fear. Instead of taking refuge in the pity words of others, instead of feeding it, change! There are other exits you must not close yourself off. You need to move forward.
5. Feeling sorry for yourself
In addition to choosing not to love yourself, you feel sorry for yourself! This serves as an escape valve, but how long can you continue like this? Change, being different, makes you afraid.
You must start facing your fears in another way. Try not to hide! Don’t look for an escape valve, go around and face what you’re running away from. Now is the time.
6. Complain and complain
You become someone who continually complains and complains about everything, but you don’t do anything about it to resolve these situations that cause displeasure and grievances… It’s ironic, isn’t it? What are you waiting for to act?
7. Trying to be a good person
You go back in time with the goal of becoming that good kid adults wanted you to be. Perfection doesn’t exist. We make mistakes constantly. Wanting to be “perfect” is useless. Instead of growing up, you will become more childlike. Is that where you want to get?
8. Impossible to live your life
Who will live your life if you’re not yourself? Since he feels he is not worthy of being happy, he is not able to take charge of his own life. You don’t know how to live your life, how to take care of it. What are you waiting for? Start living now.
9. The others before you
As we mentioned earlier, you think others are more important than you. This will make your life that of others. And your own life? Aren’t you curious how it could be?
If, after reading this article, you realize that you don’t love yourself, fix this problem right now! There is not a single advantage to this, it is just frustration, sadness and great unhappiness. Your life is yours. Live and enjoy to the fullest because there is only one. What will your choice be?
