Family Beliefs: What Can We Learn From His Legacy

Each of us faces the wonderful path of life with our own resources. Some of us have strengths and weaknesses that start to grow around family beliefs. So, in a way, we can say that we are apprentices to the obstacles we are overcoming.

The essence of who we are is formed in our early years of life,  when we are at home, surrounded by those closest to us. Our family helps us to weave what we will be tomorrow; through their actions and their words, they teach us what the world is like.

Thanks to our families, we understand the world and, little by little, we get to know each other, until we start to have our own perception of life. So  our impression of the world is marked by ourselves and what we learn from our families.

The family always leaves a mark on us. Through words and deeds, they show us different beliefs that are unique to each home. These are family beliefs, that is, inherited beliefs that we hold to.

Sometimes they are very useful, but sometimes not so useful, so it is essential that we look at what we can learn from their legacy.

Family beliefs, double-edged swords

The legacy our family leaves us is very important. These are beliefs that are transmitted to us when they show us the world, which sometimes remain in our unconscious and which, by inertia, we follow as if they were mandates.

There are several types of beliefs that are handed down from generation to generation. Among them, there are some that can do us a lot of harm. They are double-edged swords, because we have them so incorporated that we are not aware of them and we follow them naturally, even if they cause us discomfort.

Some examples can be phrases that we repeat over and over to think about the implication they have, such as: “men are all the same” or “women are all the same”. Someone who has been raised with this phrase may unconsciously follow this belief and mistrust the daily life of men or women.

So,  without realizing it, we follow some beliefs that can harm our self-knowledge and the development of our own impression of certain situations.

So we limit ourselves and stay with what we’ve learned without even exploring new directions. Now, that doesn’t mean that all beliefs are negative, but some really are.

Family beliefs, never forget our roots

Inherited beliefs can also be good  because we can learn from them, so it’s important to take them with us. Likewise, if we begin to become more aware of what beliefs we adopt as mandates, we can face the negative beliefs we hold.

Furthermore,  family beliefs are related to our roots,  as they are mostly transmitted in childhood into our closest circles.

Keep in mind that when we talk about family beliefs, we are referring to the people you’ve lived with for most of your life, and we emphasize that each family is unique.

Our roots are the essence of where we came from, honoring them allows us to go a step further. Whether good or bad, what we’ve been taught has allowed us to live, and we can learn from it every day. When we analyze our innermost experiences, we begin to be free to choose how to go our way.

Then, when we grow up, we can decide which path we want to take. Likewise, we can choose which part to preserve of what we have been taught. We keep what we want from our roots and, consciously or not, focusing on them allows us to grow, learning every day.

How do you know what the family’s beliefs are?

It can be extremely helpful to pay attention to the beliefs we’ve learned.  In this way, we can stick with those that benefit us and question those beliefs we assume without prior analysis.

Although, on the one hand, we can take advantage of all of them, if we choose the ones that are most beneficial to us, we will have greater well-being.

Look at the following ideas to find out what your family’s beliefs are:

• Know yourself. The art of knowing ourselves allows us to know about our reactions, thoughts and feelings. Once we know these points, we will be closer to our beliefs, as they are part of who we are.
• Reflects. Considering something carefully and in detail will allow us to be more aware of what our beliefs are.
• Make a list. Making a list of beliefs will help us to see them in a different way, in a more conscious way. After making the list, you can consider strategies to improve the ones that hurt you. Over time, you can incorporate new beliefs that you hadn’t considered before.
• Pay attention to typical sentences. If you are in the present moment, pay attention to the phrases that people say in your family, there will be the clue to find the beliefs!

• What prejudices do you have? There may be a belief behind prejudices, and it is essential to be aware of them.

Don’t forget that there are beliefs that contribute a lot and that increase the well-being of those who follow them. There’s nothing more wonderful than knowing what’s good for us and keeping that in our lives.

But the point is not only to detect beliefs, if they are negative, it is also important to transform them to avoid discomfort. Dare to make the unconscious conscious and modify what is bad for you.

Benefits of learning from the legacy of family beliefs

We can learn from the legacy our family left us through beliefs. Look at the benefits we can count on.

• You get rid of unconscious aspects that hurt you.
• It increases your well-being.
• increases harmony

• Increases knowledge.
• Improves the way to relate.
• Learn to enjoy the here and now.
• Find your own truth.
• Get away from prejudices.

Family beliefs take us as far as we’ll let them. They lead us to our goals when they are wonderful ways to look at life and face difficulties, but they also drive us away from our goals when they are toxic. It’s up to us to decide what to follow and what to leave.

It is important to be aware of them because,  as they are most often unconscious, beliefs will be difficult to transform if we do not know them. 

We can make a wonderful metamorphosis of the legacy our family left us, by understanding that it gave us a way of being in life and understanding the world, and that we can take advantage of these teachings or move away from them, depending on how they feel in us.

If we see family beliefs as learning, it will be easier for us to embrace them. Dare to search deep within your being for those beliefs that you have turned into imperative truths.

Reflect and transform your learned inner world into a wonderful way to have another, more conscious point of view.