Resilience, Success And Recognition, An Indispensable Circle
In previous publications we have seen the role of resilience in everyday life. As already mentioned, from Positive Psychology, it is defined as the ability to adapt to difficult situations, extract valuable knowledge from them and overcome them. How does resilience relate to success? How important is the way we explain ourselves and react to our achievements?
Dedication, deserving, help and luck
People who trust themselves tend to understand their achievements as a consequence, in large part, of their skill and dedication. They have no problem in needing outside help and accept this participation so that the objective is achieved.
This recognition is key in getting used to thinking more resiliently. When we admit our real intervention to achieve success, we gain confidence and reaching future goals is seen as a possibility closer to our reality. As a result, we will be better prepared to deal with and capitalize on failures and setbacks, as we are convinced that we are capable of overcoming them and moving forward.
On the other hand, when we consider that success is exclusively due to luck, we lose confidence, because luck is about random bad luck and not about continuity. Beyond that there may be a piece of luck, the continuity of success is related to the belief in our ability to take advantage of characteristics of different situations. When we feel responsible for our achievements, we are no longer so vulnerable to the negative effects of failure.
accept satisfaction
“ When I get something I want, I feel happy and appreciate it!! “, a patient told me in a session. Pausing to appreciate, rather than moving on to something else almost immediately after achieving something, is more useful and necessary than it might seem.
reflection exercise
WITH PENCIL AND PAPER IN HAND, DESCRIBE THREE SIGNIFICANT AND RELATIVELY RECENT SUCCESS SITUATIONS IN THE PAST TWO YEARS.
– Before starting this activity: how confident did you feel to do them well?
– Once you’ve reached your goal, how do you explain what happened?
– When reading your description of the three situations, do you see similarities in the way of explaining them?
– How did you react in each case?
– Do you think that somehow there is a link with memories of how your parents understood success or other adults during your childhood? This question invites you to think about how people who served as role models and whose example could be influencing their current conduct dealt with success.
Reinforce what makes us feel good
Engaging in activities related to our interests and strengths also makes us feel the owners of our achievements. In addition to benefiting psychophysical health, they reinforce our sense of ownership and control over success.
A resilient attitude implies daring, when necessary, to do things that are not linked to our strengths, to be patient, to persevere.
Many people come to my office so focused on their inconveniences and fears that they practically forget about the activities that make them feel good. However, it is precisely when we approach complex situations that we need to maintain a certain balance and find space in the agenda for tasks that refresh us with this feeling of power, delight, joy, when we achieve success.
